Abusive Relationships

Mental health support for survivors of narcissistic abuse, emotional manipulation, intimate partner violence, and coercive control.

Being in an abusive relationship is not a reflection of your worth or your judgment. Abuse is not always physical, and it is not always visible from the outside. It can look like constant criticism, gaslighting, controlling your money or who you see, monitoring your phone, or cycles of affection and cruelty that keep you off balance. You don’t need to be certain it “counts” as abuse to reach out for support.

We help adults and teens who are navigating current or previous:

Narcissistic or emotionally abusive relationships
Gaslighting and manipulation tactics
Intimate partner violence and coercive control
Financial abuse, stalking, or digital monitoring
Isolation from friends, family, or support systems
Difficulty trusting your own perception, during or after the relationship

What This Might Sound or Look Like

Being told you’re too sensitive whenever you raise a concern
Being told “I’m the only one who’s been here” “you’re nothing without me” or “you made me do this”
Being told you’re remembering things wrong, until you start doubting yourself
Hurtful behavior excused with “I only did that because I love you”
Being expected to share your location or passwords, or having your phone checked
Having to ask for money, or having your paycheck or accounts controlled
Warnings that no one will believe you, or that you’ll lose your kids if you leave

How You Might Feel

Confused about what’s real. Anxious and on edge, always managing someone else’s moods. Guilty for feeling upset, even when your feelings make sense. Isolated from friends or family, or embarrassed to reach back out. Still caring about the person after everything, or maybe even wanting to go back to the relationship.

If any of this feels familiar, what happened to you was designed to keep you doubting yourself. Therapy can help you recognize patterns of control, rebuild trust in yourself, and move toward relationships that feel safe and respectful.

If you or a loved one is currently in an abusive relationship, you are not alone and it is not your fault. Read further for next steps and resources.

Next Steps You Can Take

If you are in immediate danger, call 911 or the DV Hotline at 800-799-7233. Connecting with a hotline advocate can be helpful, providing saftey plans, next steps, resources, and more. A victim of intrapersonal-violence is at the highest level of risk when they attempt to leave, or immediately after they leave. It is important to plan ahead and find support. Begin noticing patterns and writing things down when it feels safe to do so, somewhere your partner can’t access. If you think your phone, car, or accounts are being monitored, use a device your partner doesn’t have access to when looking for help. In Michigan, you can ask the court for a Personal Protection Order (PPO), and you don’t need a lawyer to file. Most courthouses will have a PPO (aka restraining order) office with victim services included.

Rebuild connection with people outside the relationship. You may feel that you have burned all of your bridges, but you might be surprised at who has been waiting to hear from you.

Talk to a therapist who understands coercive control and narcissistic abuse. You don’t need “enough proof” or a plan to leave before you start talking to someone. Solace Point is here to help

Reputable Resources

National Domestic Violence Hotline — call 1-800-799-7233, text START to 88788, or chat online, 24/7

Michigan VOICES4 Hotline, 24/7 support and referrals to local services, call or text 855-864-2374

First Step, Wayne County’s domestic and sexual violence agency, based in Plymouth, offering shelter, counseling, legal advocacy, and support groups

SafeHouse Center, serving Washtenaw County, 24-hour helpline (734) 995-5444

Michigan Coalition to End Domestic and Sexual Violence, including a directory of local programs — mcedsv.org.

Legal protection: Michigan Legal Help has a free do-it-yourself tool that walks you through filing a PPO. The Michigan Attorney General’s Address Confidentiality Program lets survivors who are moving keep their new address off public records. You can apply through a local victim advocate.

Tech safety: If you think your partner is tracking your phone, location, or accounts, the Safety Net Project has guides on spyware and stalkerware and making a technology safety plan.

Teens and young adults: love is respect offers 24/7 support for unhealthy or abusive dating relationships. Text LOVEIS to 22522, or call 1-866-331-9474.

Ready to talk? Book a free 15-minute intro call.

You may also find these pages helpful: Sexual Assault & Trafficking and Extremist & High-Control Groups.